SERIOUS POST ALERT. This post contains not one single hilarious joke. You have been warned….
It’s funny the way things change isn’t it? I’ve written so many posts trying to figure out what went so badly wrong after one of my ‘bit of a disasters’ and now I find myself writing in an attempt to work out what went right. So – what did go right? The answer really surprised me and I think it’s going to surprise you too – because the answer is I did. Yep, that’s right, WeeGee finally worked out how to get it right and then went straight ahead and did it. How about that then?
Some people think that those experiencing mental health difficulties are ill, and others are of the opinion that they aren’t. For my own part, I lean heavily towards the illness theory if for no other reason than that sufferers can’t stop themselves from experiencing the difficulties in the first place. At the same time, I am of the firm opinion that mental health difficulties are not exactly the same as physical illnesses – primarily because when you become physically ill you are reliant on science, medicine and other people in order to get better; when you are mental you are reliant on yourself to get better – if you want to recover you have to hunker down and make sure you recover. Sure you might need a bit of science and medicine and you are DEFINITELY going to need other people but none of those things can fix you. The problem is in your head, and in your thoughts and ultimately you are the only person who can fix it. This by the way is the most valuable thing I have learned in the last two years.
Here are just a few of the other valuable lessons I have learned:
· The only way to deal with a bereavement is to let yourself grieve until you are ready to stop
· There is only one place for the past and that is in the past which is not the same thing as saying memories don’t matter
· If you let somebody hold you together you will fall apart when they stop being there to hold you together
· Forgiving someone isn’t the same as accepting what they did was okay
· Sometimes you have to stop just so that you can start again
· Letting go isn’t the same as not caring
· Keep on keeping on, because eventually you start keeping on without even realising you are doing it
· I can write a whole blog post without saying something daft*
I leave you with one of Mr Wise’s favourite sayings which goes ‘You can’t change your circumstances until you change the way you feel about them’ It’s taken me 33 years to figure out how very wise that actually is and I don’t plan on forgetting it any time soon
Lot and lots of love (and please can you all keep keeping on) from WeeGee xxxxxxxx
*Actually I can’t. Here’s a little story for you: So – I’m at work, everybody is in this afternoon so the office is pretty packed and very quiet. And I go to leave the room, and my dear friend Mr Hilarious shouts the following across the room “WEEGEE! ARE YOU GOING TO THE TOILET** which I was, so then everybody knew I was going to the toilet*** and then when I was coming back from the toilet a small boy child**** said “Okay, now I’m confused – you walked up there and then you just came back again” And then I had to tell him I had been to the toilet as well…..
**I still don’t know why he needed to know
***I did of course enquire as to whether anyone wanted me to do one for them while I was there because I’m hilarious like that
**** I don’t know what the small boy child was doing there either
Over and out xoxoxox