Since last I wrote it’s all been coming up WeeGee. I love the way that happens – you know, the way that even though it all seems arid and bare, green shoots manage to appear and suddenly, it all feels okay again. Life shuffles along, things get better, hope is important………
Last month was hard. It was hard on my brain but it was way harder on my heart. So often I’m told that my ‘problems’ live in my head but you know, the more the more I think about it and the more I feel it, the more I think that really the problem has more to do with my heart than anything else. Every time September comes around the thing that I have to deal with is a broken heart, not a broken head.
I’ve thought long and hard about whether I have any words for the heartbreak that September brought. I don’t. Not because the pain doesn’t deserve words, but because none of the words are good enough and because I can’t bring myself to say them and because somehow, even after all this time, I just can’t. If I could talk I’d tell you. But I can’t.
Of course, all of that matters because the things you don’t say matter even more than the things you do say. Fine. I’m going to leave it at that. There are things that I don’t, or won’t (or can’t) say out loud. Those are the most important things of all and they become no less important if I stay quiet.
I don’t have to shout about it for it to be important. The opposite of shame is NOT pride. It still matters if the whole world doesn’t know about it. Most of my heartbreak is quiet and introverted and none of any other fucker’s business. Still. My heartbreak, or the pain in my heart, or the pain in my head – adds up to an illness, in the same way that any other illness does.
I write about it because it makes me feel better, and because it allows me to connect. I don’t write about it because I want to be a spokesperson, or an ambassador or because I think that my experience of ill mental health ought to serve as anything other than one girl writing her life, if anyone cares to read it.
Here’s the thing, at least as I see it. Sometimes it’s hard, and sometimes I love it. I feel responsible for the life I have, to make the most I can of it. But sometimes I can barely find my way through it. I want to survive and I want to do it quietly. I want it to be okay to feel depressed or a little manic, or separated from the world. I want to feel okay but I want to know that my place in the world is the same if I don’t feel okay.
I didn’t choose poor mental health.
I didn’t choose depression. I didn’t choose hypomania. I didn’t choose an eating disorder. I didn’t choose any of the things I got, but I got them. And I live with them.
If I could talk I’d tell you all about the life that I’ve had. But I can’t.
I’m not ready to talk yet….
Meanwhile in other news there really is nothing I can add. Nothing else to report save that I love you all lots, like jelly tots
4 thoughts on “If I could talk I’d tell you ”
Love to you WeeGee xxx
You are still here and still fighting the good fight, that’s all that matters. ❤
As always, I enjoyed reading your blog. Sometimes things need to go through my inner Being for awhile … sort of like being filed, shredded, and/or bookmarked before I can speak about what happened. I am trying to learn that is a good thing; don’t fight it; go with the flow. Trust my instincts. I understand your struggle and think that when the time is right you will be able to discuss what is bothering you. Go with your own inner flow.
Cheers to all that you said (and didn’t say). There are pieces, a lot of pieces, that I can very much understand and relate to.
Also, any post that includes The Lemonheads is cheers-worthy by definition.